My best friend recently told me she’s done being my friend. We’ve been friends since grade school. She won’t tell me what I did wrong AND she won’t return my calls. What now?
You’re friend doesn’t want to be your friend anymore? Then she’s not really your friend is she? In all seriousness though, you can’t force anyone to be your friend. If she’s not ready to talk, or really is done being your friend – no amount of phone calling, emailing etc. is going to change that in fact repeated calling etc. may make things worse. Give her some time, if she still doesn’t come around, it’s time to make some new friends.
So, I’m confused! You’re desperately trying to hang on to someone who doesn’t value and appreciate you? Come on! Grow some self respect and move on. If she doesn’t even have the decency to let you know WHY she doesn’t want to continue your friendship, then she’s not worth your time and energy. Show her that you don’t need her games and antics and start cultivating some relationships with others you like but could stand to get to know better.
Sometimes, you just have to shake off the dust and move on. It’s hard. It’s painful. But friendships go through seasons just like everything else. We all grow and change and inevitably that means that those we once clicked with on a meaningful level we now have very little in common. Badgering your friend about things isn’t going to help if she’s made up her mind, especially if you really, honestly can’t think of something you’ve done that may contribute to her feelings. Let it go. It’s possible that with time she’ll be ready to talk. If not, being gracious enough to respect her wishes is a good place to be.